It’s Not Just Heartbreak You Have to Watch Out for, It’s . . .

** ​RAW and EXPLICIT material.**

. . . And yes, I wrote it with grammatical errors on purpose for affect. Not my usual type of post but still in the realm of my normal content regarding relationships. 

Yeah you be f***ing around with someone while we were together lying to my face several times that you weren’t. It doesn’t matter if our relationship is in the beginning, middle or towards the end, you’re either LOYAL all the way through or CUT the cord, WEAKLING, and you better be prepared as a MAN to say what for.

Straight up a**hole if you leave a woman in the dark, especially if she asks to know and especially if you were with her for some time and you said you loved her (it doesn’t matter whether you did or not you led her to believe that you loved her and obviously she stuck by your side thinking you did)

It’s sad these days, it’s not just heartbreak you got to look out for, you also can’t trust anyone anymore these days ’cause too much trust and you can catch a disease from a cheating MFer! Be careful who you open up to….

It takes a lot to rebuild from this kind of deceit, dishonesty and disbelief because these lying a** MFers don’t realize it’s a struggle interacting with others afterwards without thinking the worst because over and over and over again all guys ever did was play with the girl’s emotions, and she can’t even let her guard down for one second for a possibility. But then again, a true gentleman and a true man after a woman’s heart will see past that wall and know the best of her is yet to come with his patience. So maybe it’s worth the wait. I mean how satisfying after awhile is a superficial or empty relationship without real depth anyway? Think about it ladies before jumping….that leap you may never recover from. So you too be patient getting to know someone.


Dedicated to AJS
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To The Man Who Loved Drugs More Than Me

The following is not written by me but I thought it was a powerful and heartfelt message to share to anyone who is, or has been in this situation, and to tell you that you are not alone.  If I needed to write a letter to a boyfriend who was abusing drugs, or even to a boyfriend that isn’t using anymore but continues to present with addict behaviors/thoughts, this would be that letter.  It’s exactly what a person that loves an addict goes through.

 

While you stayed out for hours, days, and even weeks, I waited for you. While you locked yourself in the bathroom to self-medicate, I prayed for you.

While you made up countless amounts of lies and excuses, I covered for you. While you forcefully pushed me away, I faithfully tried to pull you closer.  

While you were fighting to end your life, I was battling to save it. 

I remember laying down at night, watching you while you were sleeping, begging God not to take you away from me; begging God to give you more time to beat this addiction. Sleeping with my hand on your stomach became the norm, and any time your breathing slowed down, I jumped to wake you. 

I remember trying to get a hold of you after not hearing from you all day. Calls after calls after calls. Maybe he will respond to a text… Nope. Maybe if I tell him it’s an emergency, he will call me back… Nope. 

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We Cheat On Each Other Literally Every Day In Today’s Relationships

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This type of cheating causes much more damage than that of any sexual affair.

It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing. Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom.

Why is there always so much to do and never enough time to get it done?

You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake. Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you have a wonderful day.”

This text serves as two reminders: You want her to know she’s the first thing on your mind. And, more importantly, she needs to realize that, regardless of how stressful or busy your days are, she’s the priority.

It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality.

Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on the way to work.

Relationships these days lack direction. People “date,” but what the hell does that even mean anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there?

Something is missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are?

Relationships thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person we love, so how is it acceptable to never show them?

We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media.

Do you know what trumps all that? That society has accepted relationships in which we are being cheated on every day.

When you think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person comes to mind. It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring for said person. Once you find out, all trust is lost.

But think about the concept for a minute.

Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.”

Sure, sex is cheating and may be the most hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think you’re being cheated out of your relationship every day?

We experience a lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of love. Why are we okay with this and all the communication shortcuts that have become so common?

This type of cheating causes much more damage than that of any sexual affair.

You’ve given your heart to someone and love him or her with every bone in your body, but you have to beg for his or her attention. You sit back and watch this person post status updates about useless things, or post pictures just so people can comment.

You need to take a minute to tell her she’s beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.”

Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to make another round.

The days of holding hands, opening the car door, taking her out “just because,” sending her flowers just to get a smile and leaving her notes on her car should never be gone.

We have to be children when it comes to love. We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t happen when we’re preoccupied with the details of everyone else’s lives.

Focus on each other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have.

Appreciate her, and show her how much she means to you. But, most importantly, put your phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you.

 

Source: Yourtango.com

Written by: Anthony D’Ambrosio

The 3 Loves You’ll Encounter

The below is something I read and saved a few months back somewhere in the world of social media.  I reread it again yesterday and thought it would be worthwhile to share with my audience.  Do you feel the article is accurate when comparing your love life?  What “love partner” do you think you have right now?  Tell me what you think in the comments below.

 

The 3 Loves

It’s been said that we really only fall in love with three people in our lifetime.

Yet, it’s said that we need each of these loves for a different reason.couplebw

Often our first is when we are young – high school even.  It’s the idealistic love; the one that seems like the fairytales we all read as children.

It’s a love that looks right.

The second is supposed to be our hard love; the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved.

Sometimes it’s unhealthy, unbalanced or narcissistic even.

It’s the love that we wished was right.

And the third is the love we never see coming.  The one that usually comes dressed all wrong for us and that destroys any lingering ideals we clung to about what love is supposed to be.

It’s the love that just feels right.

Maybe we don’t all experience these loves in this lifetime; but perhaps that’s just because we aren’t ready to.

Possibly maybe we need a whole lifetime to learn or maybe if we’re lucky it only takes a few years.

And there may be those people who fall in love once and find it passionately last until their last breath.

Someone once told me they are the lucky ones; and perhaps they are.

But I kind of think that those who make it to their third love are really the lucky ones.

They are the ones who are tired of having to try and whose broken hearts lay beating in front of them wondering if there is just something inherently wrong with how they love.

But there’s not; it’s just a matter of if someone loves in the same way that they do or not.

And maybe there’s something special about our first love, and something heartbreakingly unique about our second . . . but there’s also just something about our third.

The one we never see couplebwoldcoming.
The one that actually lasts.
The one that shows us why it never worked out before.

And it’s that possibility that makes trying again always worthwhile, because the truth is you never know when you’ll stumble into love.

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This poem actually has two sides to it.  Originally I was going to write two separate poems but I decided to combine the ‘fairytale’ and ‘not-so-fairytale’ parts of dating.  I think this is one of my best poems.  Not because it is one of my BEST, but because I put my heart and soul into this one and it is probably the closest to what’s true to my heart.  Check out my Poem & Article page by clicking here.

 

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I thought a miracle had happened
One that opened my eyes
From the ruins of this heart of mine
He nudged it back to life.
After all my searches have ended
And the ones who’ve played the games
Left me confused about relationships
It seemed he wasn’t the same.

He spoke such lovely words to me
I danced on them like sun-ray beams
I took the chance on happiness
That I forgotten how to be.
When he moved closer into me
And the light hit his eyes just right
I could see myself with him
And my future appeared as bright.

He pulled me in and grabbed me close
He slipped his fingers through my hair
Knocked on the walls of my broken heart
And told me not to be scared.
He slipped his hand into my hand
Asking me not to let go
In return I slipped him my heart
That’s when I should have known . . .

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Fight the Good Fight

We are two people compassionate about our values – what we deserve, what we desire, what we hold dear. We value these things so much within ourselves that we create a blockade from each other. We don’t see beyond that. But we should. Because baby, if that’s our only hangup, it’s not worth a breakup, there’s a thousand times we can makeup, to know our hearts are still there. The easy way is “out”. That’s too weak for my soul! I’d rather “fight the good fight” together moving forward. The fight we have in us put to the true test of time, love, and serendipity; by embarking on a journey . . . a remarkable journey . . .  most likely, where we haven’t been before. But oh what a thrill, and all-in-all we are understanding the importance of each other’s values. I rather that than clash on superficial wants, or on hollow hearts. Having this kind of sapiosexual bond is not for the faint-hearted. We are what make others jealous where we stand – it is a place unattainable to most. It is a place I’d like to stay in with you. Our souls have been awakened. Our bodies so use to living without it that we have no idea how to nourish the soul – and that is what frightens us. But is it really a bad thing to feel . . . when it is moving us to a better understanding of ourselves and what we deserve, desire, and hold dear?

. . . and That’s Why They Call It ‘Falling’

Falling in love can be scary.  That’s why it’s called “falling”. With any type of fall you’ve seen your life flash before your eyes and sometimes you wonder as you are falling “am I going to get hurt?”

Love is where you know you deserve the very best in someone so that it also brings out the very best in you. You want this . . . you know you need it.

Falling in love is suppose to be a time of confusion. It’s ok, because it makes you look within yourself and what you feel you can bring to the blossoming relationship.

The normal healthy confusion is this:  you don’t feel you deserve that person, but at the same time you want nothing less.  It is this pivotal moment while falling that either you embrace it or not face it.

Falling in love challenges people. Logically it is put on trial but in the end you can’t help but know the feelings outweigh anything that can be measurable.

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